10 Lessons from Training as a Therapist

1.     For the first half of the training, the easiest way of getting people to agree with you is by criticising the training. By the second half, the only people who do that are the people who are unable to acknowledge their own power.

2.     The more insane the experiential exercises might sound to someone outside the training, the more fundamental it will be to your understanding of yourself. (egs. beating cushions with tennis rackets, pretending to be being born, feeding yogurt to a colleague as if s/he’s a baby.)

3.     There will never be a period in your life when you hear the words ‘triggered”, “process”, “trauma”, “own” and “my stuff” so widely spoken.

4.     The tutor you rate the most highly will turn out to be strikingly similar to one or both parents.

5.     There’s much less sex than you’d assume.

6.     Sitting on solid chairs rather than sofas or arm chairs will become life enhancing.

7.     You’ll start your client work impersonating therapists you’ve seen.  If the training works well, you’ll end up being yourself again. 

8.     Nobody will ever be better at what you do than you are. If they are then you’re both in trouble. Who you are is what you are.

9.     You’ll haemorrhage friendships as you gradually realise that you don’t want or need some people anymore and you never did. This will be easier than you expect.

10.  The impression from training will often be that this is the scariest job in the world. In fact it can be one of the best. If anyone ever tells you that, stick close to them. They’re good.